Some really interesting food for thought. Watch the video in its entirety. And here below snippets of his thoughts:
…the issues of gender violence, sexual assault, domestic violence, relationship abuse, sexual harassment, sexual abuse of children, that whole range of issues that are referred to as gender violence issues, they’ve been seen as women’s issues that some good men help out with but I have a problem with that frame and I don’t accept it. I don’t see these as women’s issues that some good men help out with. In fact I’m going to argue that these are men’s issues, first and foremost…
Calling gender violence women’s issues is part of the problem for a number of reasons. The first is it gives men a reason not to pay attention.
what are the roles of various institutions in helping to produce abusive men? What is the role of religious belief systems, the sports culture, the pornography culture, the family structure, economics and how that intersects, and race and ethnicity and how that intersects, how does all this work? Once we start making those connections and asking those important and big questions, then we can talk about how can we be transformative…how can we change the practices? How can we change the socialization of boys and the definition of manhood that lead to these current outcomes?
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Emperor Menilik II
In a forum I attended early this year, a woman I highly respect and admire, Selome Tadesse, coined the ingenious term “Menilikish Men” in reference to men in our community who are enablers and not hinderers of women’s personal and professional development in the country. She pondered upon what a progressive man Emperor Menilik must have been in that day and age to not stifle the space for Empress Taitu, where she showed generations ahead of her the tenacity and strength with which she existed. Continue Reading
In what i consider another historic milestone for African women, The Anglican Church of Southern Africa consecrated in late November 2012, Ellinah Ntombi Wamukoya, making her the first female Bishop in Africa. Although the Southern Africa Anglican Church has been a pioneer in ordaining women into the priesthood, the consecration into the Bishop-hood of Bishop Wamukoya is quite commendable, especially as the mother church of the Anglican denomination suffers controversy. Continue Reading
“Ethiopia has a rich tradition of independent, intelligent women. From the Queen of Sheba to wedding gown designer Amsale Aberra, these women have helped shaped the cultural and historical trajectory of Ethiopia and beyond. The seven women on this list are members of an extraordinary generation of diasporan Ethiopians who are flourishing throughout the world, in large part thanks to the sacrifices and dedication of their parents. Many of them left Ethiopia during the political upheaval of the mid 1970′s. They have since found their places on North American soil, even while remaining connected to their Ethiopian roots.” …continue reading to find out more about these seven women at the MsAfropolitan blog space.
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Rosebell Kagumire discusses the many silences surrounding rape as the 16 days of activism against gender based violence is observed all around the world.
#I6Days: No justice as Uganda female journalist commits suicide after gangrape.
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Continuing from the last post, while I appreciate that a normative cultural milestone in a person’s life is that of marriage and children, I also feel that we need to nurture a mind-set or paradigm that does not equate an individual’s sense of fulfillment in life with that of tying the knot and finding completion through another person. Continue Reading
After an intense full day of writing and attempts to say “goodnight world” my mind insists that there seems to be more to write about. To say a little bit about the “half” person.