I got a message on WhatsApp today from a young man. He was distraught. See, he had witnessed his mother being brutally assaulted by his father. He was traumatized, and angry, and fearful for his mother. He wanted, desperately, to do something about it, but did not know where to begin.
As the world marks 16 days of activism against gender based violence, I am reminded that gender based violence still defines the lives of millions of women and girls across the globe. This piece is for the women that suffer in silence and live in fear. May you find the courage to speak, to leave and to embrace your magnificence, and may we find the courage to believe, embrace you with open hands, an open heart and the sisterhood that bonds us all together.
Woman, you are beautiful
You’re a gem
You’re a princess, you’re a queen
You are not one to deceive
You are God’s own
You are more than the photos on your phone, your shoes, your clothes,
The attention you seek for, so desperately, hungrily,
The desire you seek to acquire from those that do not deserve your…attention.
Pay attention.
You are more than they would ever know
More than a night with that stranger, that man whose name you do not know
Who looked at your physique, measured your bosom, drooled after your be-hind,
Who was unkind, seemed to think you didn’t mind
As he struggled to find, the zipper to your dress
Never mind the fact that you were intoxicated, medicated, dedicated to find just one man that would see you,
Love you, accept you for you,
Get to know you, embrace you,
Love you for who you are
You are, more than that
And woman, that’s a fact
Indisputable, it’s that flat
There’s no arguing, you are marked,
Forget that mark on your face from that man
That smile that you wear as a veil
That laugh that you share that’s so fake,
The smile that you wear when you wake,
You alone know the pain that it takes,
The insults, the kicks, the deception, the lies,
You alone knows what strength really means
When they say you are weak
When they say you’re naive
They don’t know naïveté
Pity!! They laugh, they shake their heads, they smirk
But you, woman, are worth more than that
Worth more than their cheap compliments their comments and stares
You are more than just a source of gratification
Temporary satisfaction
A marital dysfunction
Whatever is in fashion?
Your lightness or darkness
The size of your assets
You are an asset
You’re magnificent; you’re divergent, you’re a sweet dream, you’re a magnet
So woman, smile,
Walk with your head high,
Laugh and cry
‘Cause that’s where your strength lies
Don’t mind, don’t hide,
You’re a masterpiece,
Don’t hide,
Woman, you are fly, you’re magnificent, you’re divine
You are God’s design…smile.
Feature photo by @melodyjacob1
Incredible. Thank you for the piece.
I wish t talk t one of you.
That was Beautifully written and inspirational I am doing my first year of A-levels in Oxford and one of the requirements for my school is to write a 5000 word essay it’s official name is extended project qualification. For mine I have chosen the topic of: African Feminism, I thought I would mention it in case you are interested in helping me by expressing your powerful views and thoughts.
Sure thing. Please reach out on faynafula@gmail.com. thank you so much for your kind and inspiring words